Sassy
01-29-2009, 05:08 PM
Sassy rant: Get ready, because there will be LOTS of these I'm sure:
The original Link:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1129978/How-faceless-amoral-world-cyberspace-created-deeply-disturbing--generation-SEX.html)
There is one point of modern parenting the author mentions that I whole heartedly agree with:
‘Parents should take back some of the control they’ve ceded. We don’t say “no” enough, so vulnerable girls don’t have enough experience of saying “no” themselves.’
As a whole I think it’s a great read and there are a few points I strongly agree with.
For a woman who finds sexuality in our generation “deeply disturbing”, I love that she reminisces about the following as though it were a warm thought:
Remember that Hilaire Belloc cautionary tale - Matilda told such dreadful lies, it made one gasp and stretch one’s eyes? I used to love it as a child when telling lies was one of the naughtiest things you could do: Matilda ended up getting burned to death.
I gotta say, my generation may have discovered the joy of sex in the name of sex, but we have the good sense not to terrorize young children into good behaviour with violent thoughts of getting burned to death for lying.
Then she goes on to say:
In the course of the evening, she [author's daughter] came upon one of her friends, also aged 13, performing oral sex on a boy in the garden. The boy was standing and videoing the event on his mobile phone.My daughter, in whom the feisty gene has always found strong expression, pulled her friend off the boy, knocked the phone out of his hand and slapped him round the face.
Yet another preference of violence over sex. Sure, knock the camera out of the boys hands, talk some sense into your stupid friend - but slap him round the face? Her friend agreed to it and is just as guilty, why does the burden of blame fall entirely on the guy as though he were the only decision maker? We talk and talk about equal rights in feminism - that also means equal responsibility.
Believe it or not, and as horrifying as it may be, teens ARE sexual by nature. The only thing that has changed, is technology - the internet and common access to portable video technology has created a new landscape of exploration.
And yes, video taping yourself is a form of sexual exploration. It is curiosity. It is wanting to see yourself from a vantage point you never would be able to otherwise. It’s exiting and adventurous: and completely inappropriate for minors. Consenting adults on the other hand: knock yourself out. Just don’t be shocked if you break up and someone posts it on YouTube.
She goes on to say this about the act of the boy filming:
This not only signals the boy’s disassociation from the physical experience, it also indicates his intention to replay the event and, no doubt, to share his triumph with his friends as one might brandish a trophy above one’s head for all to see.
Again, we blame the male. What about the female’s disassociation? She’s acting on camera. And it is laughable to assume she isn’t just as eager to watch and replay the event, showing it to her friends. If she’s exhibitionistic enough to provide oral sex in public, and let it be filmed, it’s not a far reaching conclusion that she wants to do some of her own bragging.
Females can be equally, if not even more, sexually aggressive than males.
I do agree with the author on this point: Reality TV has a lot to answer for. Reality television is the downfall of western civilization. We’ve moved away from entertaining content with valuable story lines and real actors. We aren’t creating classics, we aren’t creating art, we aren’t even making a statement. We aren’t leaving a media legacy for future generations.
Naturally television companies love reality TV: they don’t have to pay actors real salaries, or find talented writers. Just pitch every day people against each other, put them in humiliating circumstances, manipulate them, try to make them cry and fight.
Why aren’t parents turning it off? Cut the cable if you have to. I make a point of explaining why these shows are horrifying and degrading to people all the time. In fact, I find the vast majoity of pornography less degrading then reality TV. I refuse to watch it. I change the channel or I leave the room.
Call me old-fashioned, but when I was a gal, [sluttishness] was not a condition one aspired to.
Allow me: You’re old fashion.
Females have gotten to a point where we no longer believe the love and sex lie. Love is not sex. Sex is not Love. If you lust after a man that you desperately want to sleep with, its okay to play with him and put him back when you’re done. Sex is enjoyable without the presence of long lasting romantic love - and there’s nothing wrong with it. For those that desire monogamy, they are free to live out those wishes. Those of us who believe in sex strictly for pleasure: act in honesty and respect, and they should be free to do as they please without judgment.
Given self confidence, pride and contraception, a woman should be able to make these decisions on her own.
Women are taking pride in the world “slut” the way black men have taken pride in the word “nigger”. It was used to degrade sexually liberal women, to shame them for their choices. No more - by freely applying it to ourselves, we take the pain out of their punch. To rob them of their hatred by declaring: a rose by any other name, is still a rose.
And yes: slutty women are as valid and deserving of respect as the chaste ones.
They looked, as girls so often do, far older than their 13 years and not unlike the Playboy Bunnies who incensed a generation of feminists
She talks as though feminists have never fought for the sexually promiscuous, for pornography, and for prostitutes. There is a huge divide within the feminist community, those who support and those who despise.
The feminists who support say: Not only do men insult and repress us, but our fellow women will pass judgment and express disdain as well? We each make our own choices, even if others can’t understand them. Feminism is about the freedom of CHOICE. To be a housewife if one wishes it, or to be a stripper if that is what excites her.
To those feminists who say promiscuity is the foot of patriarchy: Chastity and Virginity are the inventions of patriarchy. They are the rules that say: only one man should own your body, and take pleasure in it. They were concepts invented when men realized sperm made babies. Then a man wanted to own his wife, so he could guarantee the children she bore were HIS hire to his name and property. Patriarchal communities have always tried to repress the sexuality of women, inventing chastity belts, creating laws, sometimes even punishing with the threat of death.
The original Link:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1129978/How-faceless-amoral-world-cyberspace-created-deeply-disturbing--generation-SEX.html)
There is one point of modern parenting the author mentions that I whole heartedly agree with:
‘Parents should take back some of the control they’ve ceded. We don’t say “no” enough, so vulnerable girls don’t have enough experience of saying “no” themselves.’
As a whole I think it’s a great read and there are a few points I strongly agree with.
For a woman who finds sexuality in our generation “deeply disturbing”, I love that she reminisces about the following as though it were a warm thought:
Remember that Hilaire Belloc cautionary tale - Matilda told such dreadful lies, it made one gasp and stretch one’s eyes? I used to love it as a child when telling lies was one of the naughtiest things you could do: Matilda ended up getting burned to death.
I gotta say, my generation may have discovered the joy of sex in the name of sex, but we have the good sense not to terrorize young children into good behaviour with violent thoughts of getting burned to death for lying.
Then she goes on to say:
In the course of the evening, she [author's daughter] came upon one of her friends, also aged 13, performing oral sex on a boy in the garden. The boy was standing and videoing the event on his mobile phone.My daughter, in whom the feisty gene has always found strong expression, pulled her friend off the boy, knocked the phone out of his hand and slapped him round the face.
Yet another preference of violence over sex. Sure, knock the camera out of the boys hands, talk some sense into your stupid friend - but slap him round the face? Her friend agreed to it and is just as guilty, why does the burden of blame fall entirely on the guy as though he were the only decision maker? We talk and talk about equal rights in feminism - that also means equal responsibility.
Believe it or not, and as horrifying as it may be, teens ARE sexual by nature. The only thing that has changed, is technology - the internet and common access to portable video technology has created a new landscape of exploration.
And yes, video taping yourself is a form of sexual exploration. It is curiosity. It is wanting to see yourself from a vantage point you never would be able to otherwise. It’s exiting and adventurous: and completely inappropriate for minors. Consenting adults on the other hand: knock yourself out. Just don’t be shocked if you break up and someone posts it on YouTube.
She goes on to say this about the act of the boy filming:
This not only signals the boy’s disassociation from the physical experience, it also indicates his intention to replay the event and, no doubt, to share his triumph with his friends as one might brandish a trophy above one’s head for all to see.
Again, we blame the male. What about the female’s disassociation? She’s acting on camera. And it is laughable to assume she isn’t just as eager to watch and replay the event, showing it to her friends. If she’s exhibitionistic enough to provide oral sex in public, and let it be filmed, it’s not a far reaching conclusion that she wants to do some of her own bragging.
Females can be equally, if not even more, sexually aggressive than males.
I do agree with the author on this point: Reality TV has a lot to answer for. Reality television is the downfall of western civilization. We’ve moved away from entertaining content with valuable story lines and real actors. We aren’t creating classics, we aren’t creating art, we aren’t even making a statement. We aren’t leaving a media legacy for future generations.
Naturally television companies love reality TV: they don’t have to pay actors real salaries, or find talented writers. Just pitch every day people against each other, put them in humiliating circumstances, manipulate them, try to make them cry and fight.
Why aren’t parents turning it off? Cut the cable if you have to. I make a point of explaining why these shows are horrifying and degrading to people all the time. In fact, I find the vast majoity of pornography less degrading then reality TV. I refuse to watch it. I change the channel or I leave the room.
Call me old-fashioned, but when I was a gal, [sluttishness] was not a condition one aspired to.
Allow me: You’re old fashion.
Females have gotten to a point where we no longer believe the love and sex lie. Love is not sex. Sex is not Love. If you lust after a man that you desperately want to sleep with, its okay to play with him and put him back when you’re done. Sex is enjoyable without the presence of long lasting romantic love - and there’s nothing wrong with it. For those that desire monogamy, they are free to live out those wishes. Those of us who believe in sex strictly for pleasure: act in honesty and respect, and they should be free to do as they please without judgment.
Given self confidence, pride and contraception, a woman should be able to make these decisions on her own.
Women are taking pride in the world “slut” the way black men have taken pride in the word “nigger”. It was used to degrade sexually liberal women, to shame them for their choices. No more - by freely applying it to ourselves, we take the pain out of their punch. To rob them of their hatred by declaring: a rose by any other name, is still a rose.
And yes: slutty women are as valid and deserving of respect as the chaste ones.
They looked, as girls so often do, far older than their 13 years and not unlike the Playboy Bunnies who incensed a generation of feminists
She talks as though feminists have never fought for the sexually promiscuous, for pornography, and for prostitutes. There is a huge divide within the feminist community, those who support and those who despise.
The feminists who support say: Not only do men insult and repress us, but our fellow women will pass judgment and express disdain as well? We each make our own choices, even if others can’t understand them. Feminism is about the freedom of CHOICE. To be a housewife if one wishes it, or to be a stripper if that is what excites her.
To those feminists who say promiscuity is the foot of patriarchy: Chastity and Virginity are the inventions of patriarchy. They are the rules that say: only one man should own your body, and take pleasure in it. They were concepts invented when men realized sperm made babies. Then a man wanted to own his wife, so he could guarantee the children she bore were HIS hire to his name and property. Patriarchal communities have always tried to repress the sexuality of women, inventing chastity belts, creating laws, sometimes even punishing with the threat of death.